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"Retreating," she countered. "I tell you I’m feeling overwhelmed with work, and you immediately start a chore. It’s like you’re trying to optimize the stress away instead of just... hearing me."

They moved to the sofa, sitting close enough that their knees touched. This was their "couple bubble"—the invisible pact that they would protect each other from the world, and more importantly, from their own insecurities. Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner'...

Leo relaxed visibly at the touch. The book had taught them that physical contact could bypass the "primitive brain" that was currently screaming fight or flight . The Bubble "Retreating," she countered

Sarah nodded. "And I realized I was taking your silence as rejection. I thought you were bored of my venting, but you were actually just trying to be a 'white knight' with a dish sponge." Wiring the Future hearing me

Leo paused, the sponge hovering. In his mind, he wasn't retreating; he was troubleshooting. To him, a clean kitchen was one less burden for her to carry. But as they’d recently learned in the book they were reading, Wired for Love , their brains were speaking two different languages. The Anchor and the Island

"You’re doing it again," she said, her voice soft but edged with frustration. Leo didn’t turn around. "Doing what? I’m cleaning."

"I realized I was treating you like a problem to be solved," Leo admitted, his voice low. "My brain goes straight to 'fix-it' mode because if the house is in order, I feel like you’ll be okay. I forget that you just need me to be there ."