: High-pressure rewards like sticker charts can sometimes backfire, making children anxious about the outcome rather than focused on their body's signals. Key Lessons from the Nicole Dosei Approach 1. Audit Your Capacity First
If you’re ready to stop "training" and start "un-training," you can find more resources and support from experts who prioritize child-led development:
: Just as we don't "train" a child to walk, UnTraining suggests we provide the environment (the "home as a feeling") and wait for the child's internal awareness to take the lead. Potty UnTraining - Nicole Dosei.mp3
The Potty UnTraining Revolution: Why Less is More with Nicole Dosei
Dosei often references the parenting paradigm shift between being "hands-on" and "laissez-faire". UnTraining leans toward the latter—observing your child's natural rhythms without constantly prompting or "hovering". 3. Normalize Accidents : High-pressure rewards like sticker charts can sometimes
Before you even buy a toddler seat, Dosei suggests checking your own "steady" level. If you are overstimulated or at your limit, your child will sense the tension, and their "alarm bells" will go off, making them resist the potty. 2. The Power of "Laissez-Faire" Observation
: Most behavioral issues start in the relationship, not with the child. When we force the potty, we create a "threat response" in the child's nervous system. The Potty UnTraining Revolution: Why Less is More
If you’ve ever found yourself in tears on a Sunday night because the "3-day potty training" method failed, you aren't alone. The pressure to have a diaper-free toddler by a certain deadline is a major source of parental burnout. Enter and her concept of "Potty UnTraining."